When it rains, it puddles.

May 15, 2013

I originally posted this on Facebook on Friday, May 10, 2013. I think it’s blog-worthy.

I did a good deed today during lunch. I really wasn’t going to announce this to the Facebook world because I didn’t do it for bragging rights. I did it because it was right, and it made me feel good.

Something funny happened immediately afterwards, and so that’s why I want to share.

I had just left my office for lunch, and it was raining. I saw a woman, in a nice work outfit and heels, walking down the sidewalk headed towards Westheimer Rd. She was drenched. I hesitated but then stopped and offered her a ride. She accepted. She had to abandon her car several miles away because the streets were flooding, and she didn’t want to get her car stuck in deep water. While I was driving her to her apartment several miles away, she told me she was reluctant to accept a ride because one time she accepted a ride from two ladies who held a gun to her head! Yikes!

I dropped her off and was headed up Westheimer Rd. to my lunch spot, smiling, feeling good, knowing I did the right thing by stopping, yeah, yeah, woohoo.

Then, — sigh — I drove through a large puddle of water and totally drenched some poor dude waiting at a bus stop.

Thank you, Universe!



May 14, 2013

Oh, dear sweet <3. Where are you now, and what is your life like?

When I was in kindergarten, my parents bought their first home – a very modest home, in a very modest neighborhood. Very soon after we moved in, I met my next-door neighbor, a full-of-life, round-faced black girl named <3. She was my first black friend. She was one of my first best friends.

We were playmates. Pretty much every day, we’d spend time together back when you came home from school, maybe ate a snack, and went outside to play until dinner-time or dark:30.

As we grew up, we slowly grew apart. We never had classes together. We developed different friends and different interests. At some point, after elementary school, her parents put her in a different school. I don’t remember why. I think she was starting to have some troubles, but I never knew the specifics.

❤ had so much personality, and she was happy-go-lucky all the time. She called me, and pretty much everyone, “honey-child”. I thought it was so funny. It makes me smile to think about even now.

I don’t have any memories of her being outwardly sad or upset – ever. What I do remember is this.

<3’s parents were AWFUL human beings. Her mother was always yelling and screaming at her – very verbally abusive. My memories of her mom are all negative. As a child, I thought she was a monster. Her father was big and quiet – and physically abusive. He was rarely visible. I don’t even remember his name.

There are a few moments in time when I wish I would have known what to do… when I would hear the endless swats of the belt and the subsequent screams from the garage… moments that felt like hours. There were a few moments when ❤ would share with me the horrors that went on behind closed doors. Again, I’d wish I’d known how to help her. I don’t remember if I ever told my parents what was going on. Maybe? If I did, I’m sure they felt like it wasn’t their place to interfere.

And so, I’m going to digress for just a moment. I feel it is all of our place to interfere in a situation like this. It. is. our. place. This, too, has been on my mind recently in light of the happenings in Cleveland. ‘Ten years’ is too f’ing long for those victims to have suffered without any productive outside intervention.

Back to <3.

I’m sorry, <3, for your suffering. I’m sorry I didn’t know how to help you. You were, and I’m sure still are, a bright light. I think of you fondly. My hope is that you have an amazing life – one that includes lots of LOVING family members.

It would be my honor to see you again one day and know you.

Here’s to you, honey-child.



November 21, 2012

It’s that time of year… so many of us are verbalizing what we’re thankful for via Facebook, Twitter, blogs, etc. Except for a brief one-liner comment at my company’s Thanksgiving potluck, I haven’t expressed the things I’m thankful for in my life.

Let’s see if I can get through this…

My mom died January 4, 2012. For the most part, I’ve been at peace with her leaving this earth. There’s a lengthy backstory there, which I won’t go into… I’ll simply say her suffering ended. My mom suffered in many ways on this earth, and because of her circumstances and decisions, I did too. Since her passing, for the most part, when I think of my mom, I feel an overwhelming sense of relief, and I smile at the memory of her, but lately, I’ve been thinking about the person she was down deep inside, and the person she raised me to be. I shall now give my “thanks” to you, Mom.

Thank you for being present in my life when and for as long as you were able.

Thank you for taking care of me when I was sick like only a nurse could.

Thank you for the talks… about boys, sex, life, and death and everything in between.

I’m thankful for your laugh, even as rare as it was to hear. I’m also grateful for your tears, for they were even more rare. They showed me you were a human being, not just my mom.

Thank you for the honest moments, the silly ones, and for being there during the sad ones, too.

Thank you for understanding my mental illness like only a survivor could, and doing everything in your power to guide and help me to be one, too. Because of you, I learned there are resources – help – lots of help.

Mom, because of your example I am caring, compassionate, empathetic, loving, and thoughtful.

I am capable , conscientious, and intelligent because of you.

I am NOT pretentious, careless, hateful, or racist. THANK YOU.

I am on this earth because of you, and it ain’t all bad. Thank you.

Last but not least, thank you for watching over me. I know you are here with me.


The To-Don’t List

October 30, 2012

My current state of affairs (in alphabetical order)…

Acid Reflux
Elevated Blood Pressure
Fast Resting Heart Rate
High Cholesterol
Obesity – 5’10” & 245 lbs.
Sleep Apnea
Vitamin D Deficiency

“And miles to go before I sleep,
And miles to go before I sleep.”



October 30, 2012

Where the heck are ya, man of my dreams? I think I’ve found you, and I’m ready to meet you!

A month ago, I joined a free online dating website, and I’ve slowly been adding to my profile. It’s amazing how much thought and effort I’ve put into it. You would think I was going to be graded on it. I still want to add a few blurbs to my self summary, and then I can let it go. Let it go in more ways than one.

You see, right off the bat, there was one man’s profile that really caught my attention, and all I can do is focus on reasons why I’m not good enough to engage him in conversation. I don’t have a degree. I’m fat… I LIVE WITH MY FATHER! These are deal breakers for a lot of people, and honestly, I get it.


Part of me wants to send this guy a really charming message telling him how I like his profile, and how, based on the websites information/tools/ratings, I think at the very least we’d make great friends, and how I’ve come to the realization that there are some things I need to work on before I really put myself out there, so I’m going to take a couple of months to work on myself, and heck, maybe he’ll still be around when I restart my search.

Another part of me wants to just disable my account and forget the whole darn thing.

So… what to do?



March 16, 2011

I’m coming to you live from my iPhone. I just discovered this app.

It’s been almost a year, my friends. I’ve missed you all. I need to get back in the game.

I hope all my blogger friends are doing well – REALLY.

It’s past my bedtime, so I’m keeping this short.

Good night.


I’m here.

April 23, 2010

I’m here. It’s been two months since my last post…

That sounds a bit like a confession.

Man, I don’t multitask well when there’s a “situation” in my life. (I originally used the word “crisis” ’cause that’s what it feels like.)

My blog and blogger friends have been on my mind lately. I hope you all out there in cyber-space are doing well. I hope to spend some time with Google Reader this weekend and get caught up on all the goings on.

So, we’ll chat soon.


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